The holidays can be especially rough if you’re going through a divorce. But you don’t have to dread this time of year. It’s still possible to enjoy the holidays, no matter what else is going on in your life. Here are some tips to help you get through.
1. Start some new traditions.
You used to spend the holidays together as a family, and some traditions will be coming to an end. But now is a great time to start some new traditions. Whether watching a movie together or making cookies, find something you and your children can do together. It can be a new tradition you all enjoy for years to come.
2. Go easy on the guilt.
Children may not like the changes that are going on in the family, and it’s easy to feel guilty about that. Some parents feel they are taking something away from their children. Things will be different, but that’s not a bad thing. Instead, focus on spending time with your children and making the most of your time together.
3. Cooperate with your former partner.
If possible, try to work together on making the holidays go as smoothly as possible for your children. That may involve creating a parenting plan and deciding on who your kids will spend time with and when. Try to work out a plan where children can be with extended family on both sides.
4. Don’t go it alone.
Whether you have children or not, holidays are not the time to be alone. Make time to see family and friends. Consider having some people over. If that’s not possible, you could volunteer at a soup kitchen or homeless shelter or find another way to help in your community.
5. Remember what you like about the holidays.
Going through a divorce can be difficult. Take your mind off it by doing something related to the holidays you enjoy. Maybe it’s listening to Christmas music or watching movies. Perhaps it’s putting up decorations or baking. Whatever it is you like to do, throw yourself into it!
6. Take things one step at a time.
What are you going to do about other holidays? How about birthdays and other special occasions? It’s very easy to stress yourself out when thinking about the future. But you don’t have to figure out everything at once. Just focus on how you will handle this holiday.
7. Keep the past in the past.
You probably have some good memories of past holidays you spent together as a family. You will always have those memories, but there’s no need to dwell on them. Instead, you can start new traditions and make new memories.
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